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<\/p>\nI\u2019m being blamed for the breakdown of a marriage \u2013 but it\u2019s got nothing to do with me.<\/p>\n
The husband of a woman I used to work with has tracked me down. He wants my head on a spike. He\u2019s angry and full of resentment.<\/p>\n
He says they are getting divorced. She\u2019s announced she no longer loves him because she is in love with me! This is crazy. I vaguely remember her. We collaborated on a big project back in 2018.<\/p>\n
READ MORE:<\/b> 'My fella bonked my boss \u2014 he stank of her after they spent six hours humping in hotel'<\/b> <\/p>\n
You can check out more relationship and sex advice from Daily Star agony aunt Jane O'Gorman here. <\/b><\/p>\n
At the end of it our old boss took a gang of us out for a slap-up meal \u2013 and she and I ended up in a hotel room. We had drunken sex until dawn. I didn\u2019t even know she was married.<\/p>\n
In the morning we went our separate ways. I was head hunted a short time later and moved to New York. Now I\u2019m back in my home town and feeling the heat. The husband storms that his wife is still infatuated with me.<\/p>\n
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He says I have to do something \u2013 I must tell her I\u2019m not interested and insist she returns home to him. But what has any of this got to do with me?<\/p>\n
A lot has happened since I was last here and I don\u2019t think I\u2019d even recognise her if I passed her in the street. I stopped drinking during Covid and everything before that is a bit of blur.<\/p>\n
But, he reckons this woman has never got over me and feels she can\u2019t continue being married to him because of it. I feel as though I\u2019m being stalked. He keeps stopping me in the street and finding me in pubs.<\/p>\n
JANE SAYS: You need to get tough. You have to explain to the husband that these marital woes are nothing to do with you.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
You aren\u2019t prepared to speak to your ex-colleague, and don\u2019t wish to have any contact with either of them.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
Warn him that you now believe you\u2019re being harassed and stalked \u2013 and aren\u2019t willing to put up with either. Make it clear you will go to a solicitor or even the police if he or she troubles you again.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
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Unfortunately, you find yourself in the middle of some serious marital crossfire. A desperate husband wants you to speak to his adamant wife about returning to the family home. Meanwhile, the wife is saying you are the only man for her, despite you not seeing each other for years.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n
My gut feeling is that your ex-colleague is simply using you as an excuse to get out of an unhappy marriage.<\/i> <\/b> She\u2019s plucked your name out of the air. I just don\u2019t believe she\u2019s been secretly in love with you.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
There\u2019s something weird going on and I doubt you\u2019re hearing the full story.<\/i> <\/b> Stand firm, share this trauma with friends and family and don\u2019t allow anyone to get to you.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n