My colleague told me he fancies me – but I'm sleeping with his dad

DEAR DEIDRE: OUT of the blue, my colleague confessed to liking me – but he doesn’t know I’ve been having hot sex with his married dad.

I’m a 28-year-old woman, an accounts manager for a building supplier. My boss is a bit rough around the edges but he built the business up from scratch.


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He’s your typical cheeky chappie who knows all the builders by name and the business is thriving. He is 45 and he has been married three times.

When he’s not sorting out deliveries or chatting to customers, the rough edges disappear and he’s a real softy.

I lost my grandad recently. He’d been ill for months so it was no surprise when Mum called me at work.

We were in the middle of stocktaking so I couldn’t leave. I cried and my boss hugged me.

I went to grab a tissue but he said: “Come back — I was enjoying that even though you’re sad”. I went back for a second cuddle, but this time he kissed me.

We were alone in the office. My stomach did somersaults. We continued kissing and then we had sex on his desk.

I thought it would be a one-off but after a day at home, I went back to work and he invited me for lunch. He then booked us into a hotel and we had an afternoon of passion.

He has made me feel amazing and I want to be with him.

His son is 25. He’s a quiet guy and sweet-natured but he’s not my type. We were talking about weekend plans and I asked if he had a girlfriend.

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I was shocked when he said he’d like to take me out some time.

What can I do? He’s nearer my age but not boyfriend material. I much prefer the company of his dad.

DEIDRE SAYS: You may do, but he’s not available. Do you honestly want to be his fourth wife or live-in lover?

My guess is the secrecy and the sex has the aphrodisiac pull but without those, this relationship would quickly lose its appeal.

You have a good job. It would be a shame to lose it by being the cause of office gossip or worse still, being seen as a marriage wrecker.

Tell your boss that casual sex isn’t your style and he’s got a lot to lose too. You would prefer to keep your relationship professional from now on.

Talk to his son too, letting him down gently by saying he’s a lovely guy and you’re flattered he wants to take you out but you’re not right for him.

Get out with your friends and find somebody nearer your age free to have an honest, open relationship with you.

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