My abusive ex-girlfriend left me a suicidal stammering wreck

DEAR DEIDRE: I DIDN’T realise I was in an abusive relationship until I spoke to family and friends about it.

I’m a 32-year-old man and was with my girlfriend for almost ten years. She’s 30.

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The last two were the worst years of my life. I felt suicidal.

It started with pushing and shoving whenever I made a mistake, but then it got worse.

She threw books, plates and shoes at me and even kicked me a couple of times.

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I used to be confident but now struggle to make eye contact and sometimes can’t get my words out. It’s as if I’ve developed a stammer.

I’ve been out of this relationship for a couple of years and I’d like to meet someone new but don’t know where to start.

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DEIDRE SAYS: You have been through a very distressing time but have done well to escape.

It’s normal to be scared to open up again, although you need to believe you deserve a happy and healthy relationship.

I’m sending my support pack on Raising Self-Esteem, which will help you move on from her abuse.

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