Danielle Lloyd trolled for post-baby body: They say I used a surrogate or liposuction
Danielle Lloyd has shared her upset at cruel trolls who have relentlessly targeted her since the birth of her fifth child, Autumn, in November.
The star – who is loving life as a mum of four boys and one daughter – has been left distraught by claims she's had surgery to return to her pre-pregnancy weight. Others have claimed she used a surrogate to have Autumn, which is equally as upsetting. Sign up as an OK! VIP – for free! – to read her interview.
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When new! arrives at Danielle Lloyd’s stunning Birmingham home, the model and mum-of five welcomes us in with open arms. And despite a sleepless night with her daughter Autumn, the 38-year-old is looking as glamorous as ever.
"It’s all make-up," she laughs. "My eyes feel so heavy. You should see the bags underneath!"
But even with lack of sleep it’s clear the star couldn’t be any more in love with her beautiful baby girl. Danielle welcomed Autumn into the world in November, after being induced at 38 weeks – and just 16 weeks later she’s back in a bikini, telling us she feels "happy and confident".
But despite how good she feels, behind the scenes hurtful trolls have left her emotional and angry. "Whenever I pose in a bikini people say, 'You’ve got five kids, put it away'," she tells us. "It’s upsetting as I worked hard throughout my pregnancy and after to be healthy and look after myself."
As well as Autumn, Danielle is mum to son Ronnie, four, with her property developer hubby Michael O’Neill, and has Archie, 11, Harry, 10, and George, eight, from a previous marriage. Here, Danielle reveals how Michael has supported her throughout her trolling ordeal, why the comments took her back to a dark time in her life, and why she’s done with surgery and having more babies.
Hi Danielle! You’re looking amazing. How are you feeling?
I’m feeling really good. I’m happy and I feel confident. I’m so proud of these pictures and I feel like I’ve done amazingly to get to this point. Whenever I pose in a bikini people say, "Ew, you’ve got five kids, put it away!" and I’m like, "No way!" Why should I? I’m not even 40. I’ll still be doing it at 90. I’ve also had some really hurtful comments from people skinny-shaming me.
What have people said?
People have said things like, "What impression are you giving to mums by being that thin after giving birth? Do you even eat? You look like a rake!" Other comments have said that I’ve obviously had liposuction after having Autumn, and that I must have had a surrogate as you don’t lose baby weight that quickly. Believe me, having liposuction after having a baby is the last thing on my mind. Was I really going to get the fat sucked out of me three months after giving birth?
How have those comments affected you?
It’s been really upsetting and frustrating because I tried so hard not to put loads of weight on. I didn’t eat for two this time and I made a conscious effort because I overindulged with the boys. It makes it harder to lose the weight if you eat for two. I’m also older now and it gets harder each time to lose the weight.
I didn’t want to get to that stage where I was unhappy after pregnancy, so I looked after myself. You don’t want to be getting trolled just after having a baby and it’s hard when your hormones are all over the place. It’s a lot to go through. The surrogate comment actually made me laugh but it’s also offensive. People are so delusional. It’s offensive to people who have to go down the surrogacy route because they can’t get pregnant naturally.
Have you broken down about it?
I wouldn’t say I’ve cried over it because trolling is just something I’ve become used to. I’ve grown a thick skin, but it made me angry because I feel like it’s constant. I’m either too fat or too thin. These comments make you doubt yourself and think, "Oh God, am I?" When I was pregnant and I got pictured on the beach people would say, "You look like a f*****g whale!" I can’t win.
I feel like I’ve been getting shamed for losing weight so quickly. But I’ve done it through a healthy lifestyle. I wasn’t like, "Right I need to get skinny straight away!" I just made a conscious decision this time to be healthy and worked hard through my pregnancy, and afterwards, to look after my body.
Why do you think people target you?
I think it’s jealousy. I actually wrote back to some people and said, "Sorry you’re so jealous you have to comment on me. It’s not my fault I look so good!" [Laughs.] Most of the time though I will bite my tongue because I think, "I’m not going to be shamed for how I look." I’ve learnt to block it out.
How has Michael supported you?
He gets really angry. As a man you want to protect your wife so it really upsets him. Sometimes I don’t even tell him as I don’t want him to get angry at someone you don’t even know. Sometimes he’ll see a comment before I do and will message me to say, "You need to delete this and block that person."
Do you ever get upset in front of the boys?
No. I feel like the boys have been through so much in their life so I wouldn’t want to get upset in front of them. Of all the comments you’ve received, which one has upset you the most? I think the one saying I’d had liposuction after the baby and saying I’m not being a good role model.
I feel like I’m setting a good example by living a healthy lifestyle. I really struggled to lose the weight after the boys. I did go down the surgery route [in 2019] and that was exactly what I didn’t want to do this time. I chose to be healthier. I’ve also proved you can do it without surgery.
What surgery did you have?
After Ronnie I had liposuction, a Brazilian bum lift and my boobs redone all at the same time. I was really happy with the result but it’s a lot for your body to go through. I came home and the kids were like, "Mummy what’s wrong with you?" I couldn’t really walk properly and I just can’t do that to myself again with five to look after. Michael also told me, "No more now, it’s got to stop."
How did you feel about him saying that?
It worries him, me going through the surgery, so I get where he’s coming from. He says he thinks I’m perfect as I am. I’m very lucky. I feel done with surgery. I’m not planning to have any more. How did you get in shape? I didn’t exercise for the first six weeks but breastfeeding definitely helped and I took my placenta tablets.
I’m also a real advocate for the keto diet and I’ve learnt about nutrition now. I think it’s 80% what you put in your body and 20% fitness. I don’t go to the gym every day but I do have a bike at home. I sit on the bike for an hour in the morning and watch breakfast TV while Autumn is in her chair next to me. Multitasking at its finest! I wanted to exercise more this time to help me stop getting postnatal depression, and I find exercise so good for my mental health. And for me when I feel I get out of shape I feel more sluggish.
I did actually get some antidepressants before having Autumn as I wanted them just in case I felt down. I had a plan in place with my doctor, but luckily I didn’t need them. I’ve been in a really good place. I’m complete now and happy.
When did you get postnatal depression?
After Harry. He was born prematurely at 29 weeks and that was one of the things that triggered it. Archie was also only a year old. It was really stressful and that made me start drinking a lot of alcohol again. It was horrendous but I got through it with therapy and the help of my family. I have a therapist on speed dial.
It’s so good being able to talk to someone who is removed from the situation and get it all out. When you bottle something up that’s when the drink, drugs and depression come into it because it’s too much for your brain. When I talk about things it feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders and I feel like I can breathe again.
You spoke on a podcast last year about experiencing physical, verbal and emotional abuse in a previous relationship. When you get trolled do any of the comments take you back to that time?
I think so because that’s always in the back of my mind. I’ve had so much therapy to deal with that, but when you’re getting abused online it does trigger it again and it’s hard to deal with. I would get chairs smashed over my head and it was horrendous. I used alcohol to numb the pain, but my life is so different now. With lots of therapy and being a busy mum I’m able to deal with things and not go down that route.
Michael is so supportive, too. I’ve never had that before in a relationship. If I’m having a down day Michael is like my therapist and we’re both really open with each other about our mental health. Michael knows when my anxiety is bad as I feel like I can’t breathe properly. I don’t know what triggers my anxiety attacks, but I know how to control it now.
Something else you’ve been trolled about is being on paid for website OnlyFans. Tell us about that…
That’s thankfully stopped now. People were saying I shouldn’t be doing it after giving birth, and I shouldn’t be doing it as I have kids. But if I want to post a picture of me holding my boobs and covering my nipples, who cares? There is nothing on there which hasn’t been seen before.
I’ve lived my whole career doing lad mags and if people want to subscribe to see that then great. It’s helping me put food in my kids’ mouths and paying my mortgage. And if my husband doesn’t mind me being on it, then why do you? I get Michael to take the pictures for me! I’m in the top 3% of earners on there so I feel like I’m doing pretty well.
It’s been reported that Katie Price and her fiancé Carl Woods are going to put their wedding on OnlyFans. What do you think about that?
Well I wouldn’t put that past her as anything goes with Katie! I haven’t met Carl but as long as she’s happy and that’s what she wants to do then she should. There were also reports that you’ve cut ties with her. Is that true? I wouldn’t say I’ve cut ties with her. I would just say I haven’t spoken to her in a long time. After all the assault stuff went on I reached out to her and made sure she was OK.
When was the last time you spoke?
She messaged me not long ago when I posted a picture of my body and said, “Tell me how you lost that weight!”
She has been through a lot. Can you sympathise with her?
She has. She seems to be a lot happier now and I hope she’s getting help. I did reach out to let her know I’m there for her. Everyone makes mistakes.
Since having Autumn you’ve gone back and forth about the decision of whether to have a sixth child. Where are you at now?
I’m definitely done. I think five is enough and I’ve got my little girl now so why would I have more? I’m happy. When I did say about having another it was more that I could have 10 kids because I just love it. Usually I would put the babies into their own room at three months, but I’m really putting it off with Autumn. I think it’s because I know she’s my last baby.
How is Autumn doing?
She is the happiest little baby. All she does is smile and giggle and laugh at you. She’s trying to grab things now. I think she’s going to be quite advanced as she’ll have four older brothers to copy.
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And how are the boys?
They’re really good. It’s a mad house but I wouldn’t have it any other way. Harry is going to secondary school in September and I’m quite scared. He’s been diagnosed with ADHD and I worry so much about bullying. He’s so literal and he can be quite awkward sometimes.
He’ll just say, “Oh my God, that person stinks!” We were on a plane to Dubai once and there was a baby crying the whole way and he stood up and said, “Oh my God, has that baby not got a mother?” I nearly spat my tea out!
I encourage all the boys to be open and honest with me about their feelings and I want them to feel they can come to me for anything. Archie is always telling me about his girlfriend problems! He comes home and says, “Mum there are five girls after me and I don’t know who to go for!” But he has picked one now so he has a girlfriend! He also suffers really badly with anxiety but he is able to say to me, “My anxiety is really bad today.”
What triggers it?
I don’t think he knows, and that’s really confusing for him. He’s had a lot of therapy to deal with things and he’s been through a lot – things like his dad leaving. I’m just glad he’s able to voice it and not bottle things up.
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